[For women] What is etiquette when choosing wedding shoes? Be careful with NG shoes!

Nov 23, 2019
Many women worry about what kind of shoes will not be considered bad manners when invited to a wedding. For the bride and groom, the wedding ceremony is the grand stage of life, and etiquette is required in the behavior and clothing of the participants.

On the other hand, many people who are thinking about buying new shoes are looking for shoes that can be used not only for formal occasions such as weddings, but also for everyday use. At MAMIAN, we have received many requests such as "I want shoes that I can wear to a wedding" and "I want to wear them to work if possible".

This time, I will introduce the etiquette and proper selection of shoes to wear to a wedding.

If you are invited to a wedding, "pumps with heels" are the basics


Formal is the key to a wedding. Therefore, it is basic for women to wear "pumps with heels". Among women's shoes, pumps are considered the most formal. Unless you have a specific reason, such as an injury or being pregnant, wear pumps with heels.

What is the heel height and thickness?


The lower and thicker the heel, the more stable you can walk. However, at a wedding, heels that are too high or too low are NG.

The ideal heel height is about 3cm to 10cm.
A 5-7 cm heel is said to make your standing look beautiful and make your legs look longer. Since there are many cases where people walk from the wedding hall to the after-party venue or for photo shoots, we recommend a 5 cm length that allows you to walk smartly if you are unsure. Even if you're thinking about wearing them for everyday wear after wearing them at a wedding, it's a good idea to choose heels that are comfortable to walk in.
It's not bad manners to wear heels over 10cm, but it puts a lot of strain on your feet, so if you're not used to wearing them, it can be difficult to wear them all day long.

Furthermore, heels that are too thick are not allowed in order to give a casual impression. Choose pumps with medium to thin heels, as thin heels look more elegant.

What kind of design is OK?


Emphasize formality and glamor when designing pumps.

For this reason, shoes with heels and toes that do not protrude are the basics. In recent years, if it is a casual ceremony, it seems that there are cases where it is OK even if the heel is exposed as long as it has a back strap. If the toe is sticking out, it is considered bad luck because ``the wife is the first wife''.


As for heels, choose shoes with elegant and classy designs such as stiletto heels, wood heels, and glitter heels. Glitter heels are heels that are decorated with glittering glitter.

Shoes with straps on the instep or ankle are recommended for those who are not accustomed to wearing heels because the feet are fixed inside the shoe.
Also, if you want to use it for work or everyday use, choose pumps with a simple design.

Can I use any material?


At weddings, shoes made of silk, satin, or other elegant, glossy cloth are the basics. Shoes decorated with bijou, beads, and pearls are also perfect for gorgeous seats.

You can also choose enamel shoes that have a glossy finish on the leather, or suede shoes that have a brushed surface. Some people say that leather shoes are bad because they are associated with killing, but in recent years, it seems that there are many cases where it is accepted that leather is OK as long as it is shoes. Many men wear leather shoes!
However, crocodile, snakeskin, leopard, zebra, and other animal patterns that are strongly associated with killing animals are not acceptable.

Beware of shoes that are not suitable for weddings!


In order to celebrate the bride and groom comfortably, it is a major principle to participate in clothes that follow manners. Wearing ill-mannered shoes and making the bride, groom, and other guests feel uncomfortable can jeopardize a happy wedding.

NG shoes

  • sandals
  • Mules
  • boots
  • booties
  • open toe
  • oxford shoes
  • animal print shoes
  • shoes with fur
  • bicolor shoes


shoes that need attention

  • wedge sole
  • platform shoes


Wedge sole refers to shoes that look like a wedge because the heel looks like a right triangle when viewed from the side. Platform shoes refer to shoes that are thick not only on the heel but also on the toe.
These two shoes are sometimes acceptable for restaurant weddings and after-parties, but they are not suitable for formal weddings. If you can't decide between the two, it's safer not to choose.


You can find your ideal shoes at MAMIAN!



Wedding pumps are gorgeous, but many of them have designs that are difficult to wear on a regular basis.
However, there are many elegant and classy pumps that are perfect for a sunny stage, even if they are not wedding pumps.

MAMIAN's pumps have finely divided heel heights and are designed to look feminine and elegant. In addition, we have carefully designed it so that it is easy for Japanese women to wear and walk. You can also choose from a wide variety of pumps for weddings that suit your feet.

Even if you buy it online, you can return or cancel it, so why not check the compatibility with the dress at home?
Check the MAMIAN mail order site "PUMPS", "iCoN Basic", "iCoN COLORS", and "iCoN Foundations"!



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